Are you a “Type”?

Do you date men who ONLY date full-figure woman?
I know we all have a type or types that
we prefer when dating we like, what we like but, have you ever been looking at your friend list on the The Book and keep seeing the same guys face pop up on all of your curvy friends list also?

I know there is an extensive list of people involved in this here awesome world of ours we have photographers, designers, artist and so on but what about the guy…..you know the one who is well-known in every chubby circle.

Is he a groupie? Or does he simply likes what he likes.
I’ve had this conversation with several friends and family members. I even had one cousin who referred to this one guy as “The chubby chaser” I’m never offended, always proud so it was cute to me when she told me I was one of “them” laughing out loud!!!

Seriously though how many times do you hear a man say a woman is not his type because she is thin? How many thin woman are running around trying to get a little extra weight on them because pleasantly plump is popular?

I want to hear from my curvy ladies…do you date men who only date plus size woman? Do you feel like just a type?  

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I woke up like this, I woke up like this!! FLAWLESS Gabifresh is just that!!!

I am officially part of the Gabifresh Crew!!! Being a Curvy blogger has been my most interesting and fun career move as of yet and boy it just got spicy. Fellow Blogger and curvy diva Gabifresh has done what so many of us imagine doing in our head but just don’t have the gusto to get it done.

Let me first say that I am not a fan of the booty popping, twerking epidemic that is going around. Don’t get me wrong….everything in moderation and I’m all for a good time but the images of full-figured women getting attention by popping that *ss is played out and should be put down. Gabi and her crew presented the exact opposite.

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s  verse on Flawless says  “We teach girls to shrink themselves to make themselves smaller” we curvy girls can take that literally . We are taught from children that we are wrong for being larger than other girls. That we should be ashamed of ourselves. Chubby is a nice, bad word  and fat is a bad, bad word. Are we teaching our girls to be unhealthy? NO! The list of women who are plus size and have their own exercise programs and health food classes are endless. 

Full Figured doesn’t equate with lazy, and classless in fact the women I have the pleasure of meeting, knowing and working with are some of the classiest by far they hold themselves to a certain standard and it is something I strive for each and everyday ( It’s a task at times).

Gabi, Tess and Nadia kudos and a standing ovation! You ladies represented you did it classy and sexy. Take a minute to watch these ladies in action.  Continue to be flawless and add a touch of class and sass! xoxo Ki

Are your girlfriends supportive? Are you?

The other day I created this blog site and I was really excited. One because I had been trying to get one up and running without it being a complete mess since I was doing it myself. Funds do not allow me to outsource anything I’m doing at this time but god is good this is temporary. I was almost done and thought okay who can I call or ask to come over and look over my preview, you know to check context , pics, format etc…. 

I came up with nothing….please don’t get me wrong I have some very close friends. At least I consider them close, as close as we can be. Most of my friends are married with families and loads of responsibilities. It left me thinking are my local friends supportive? I’ve done several fashion shows, hosted several events, blog etc. and I can not name one of my local friends who I consider very close that have supported me.

Then I had to look at myself as the problem and look at myself as the solution. Yes I am ALWAYS doing something but who wants to be friends with someone who has so much potential and doesn’t use it? Am I supportive of them, I’m assuming so but you know what they say about assumptions. I attend parties for them some adult ,some children’s parties , I check in with them every time they are on my mind and I am the best listener.I may not always have a reply but I do listen.  I treat their children as if they are mine. Financially they don’t need help and I couldn’t help in that area anyways. Ya’ll think I’m kidding check my website….free. 

This left me with an ultimatum, do I completely cut my “friends” off… or do I have a chat with these women who I think besides the aforementioned I am lucky to have in my circle. 

Let me end this by saying  I am aware and okay with the fact that I am  scattered, emotionally unavailable at times and often moody.I am also loving, I have a huge heart and I’m very considerate of others and their circumstances. That’s another reason I really appreciate my friends because I know I’m pretty much to deal with and they know it also but they accept me and my crazy and they aren’t perfect either but I think they are damn near close.